My cross I bear is this: I remember sermons.
No, not just the alliteration, funny stories and heartwarming illustrations. And not just the pithy quotes that preachers once found in books but now find through internet memes. I actually remember the points of the sermon.
There is one sermon I remember well. I’ve heard it more than once. I don’t remember the Bible text— no doubt punched down, pulled stretched, rolled out and shaped to say exactly what the preacher was trying to say. But I remember the thesis:
Jesus didn’t come to make you happy. He came to give you joy.
The preacher would say this and pause, as though he just revealed some deep insight before moving on to articulate the technical, lexical distinction between happiness and joy:
Happiness is circumstantial and fleeting. It is a feeling based on whatever good may be happening at that moment. It is entirely external. Joy is much deeper, sustaining us through seasons of grief and suffering. It is our comfort even through anxious seasons. Joy, unlike happiness, is not based on external circumstance, but is an inner contement experienced by those who have the Grace of God, a byproduct of life lived in Him.
That is quite the distinction and boy, does that preach! There were some good things in that sermon. We do need a thick experience of joy to sustain us in the hurley burley of life. But on the alleged distinction between happiness and joy, I call balderdash! Hogwash! Malarkey, even! When the preacher preaches the dictionary, may the congregation beware!
In reality, joy, and happiness are not all that different. In everyday speech, we use the two terms interchangeably. And while there are shallow ways to experience happiness and joy there are a great many people reaching thicker versions of both. For example, Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project chronicled her year-long exploration on how to live a happy, more fulfilling life. And of course, people are exploring what on earth makes Denmark happier than the rest of the world when they are most famous for marzipan pigs, and that cranky philosopher whose name you always misspell. The Danes refer to happiness as hygge (pronounced something like Hoo-gah) denoting some like total well-being and living a fulfilled life. However you get there, you need lots of candles and cozy nooks.
The biblical authors also use happiness and joy interchangeably. The Psalmist exhorts us to “shout for joy,” a happy acclamation of ejaculatory praise (Psalm 95:1; 98:4). Happy is used to describe those who avoid wickedness, sin, and mocking, but delight in the Lord’s law both day and night (Psalm 1). Happy were those whose lifestyles marked by godly obedience to Torah (Psalm 119:1-2). That isn’t all that different than Jesus’ promise that our obedience to Him would bring us the fullness of joy (John 15:10-11).
So Joy and happiness are near synonyms. Why it matters is this:
Jesus came to make you happy.
Jesus first Advent was not about an inner state of serene joy. It was a real-world, circumstantial, happening. It changed the world, If you were there and sensed what God was doing, a smile would spread across your face. The way we know Mary who really did know, smiled happily as she sang her song.
When Jesus comes again and all sorrow and terror cease, it will be a real-world, circumstantial ‘happening.’ When suffering reaches its end and only Shalom, wholeness and life remain, we will be happy. The Christian joy (or happiness) we experience in this moment, exists between these two happenings. The incarnation opened up a new way for us. And we now live in happy anticipation of New Heavens and New Earth.
And yes there is grief and pain and there is real evil in the world still. There are times we are heartbroken and hurt. We lose loved ones and feel like we’ve lost our sense of self. We feel discouraged and worried, and full of doubt. Happily, this too, shall pass. All shall be well, and all shall be well and all manner of thing shall be well.
3 thoughts on “Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy”
Great comment! I wonder if most of the distinctions you mention have to do with the greatness of the object, more than anything. I mean we can talk about the Joy of Cooking or the Joy of Sex, and we mean entering fully into the experience of the thing, enjoying it for what it is. The Joy of the Lord is categorically different, because it has as its object the Triune God. So we could distinguish between temporal happiness/joy and everlasting joy, but that doesn’t mean that this joy is categorically different.
Your facebook friends analogy works really well. There is no comparing online friendships/community to an embodied community of people we’ve shared life with. That being said, if we ever occupy real time and space together, we should grab a pint.
Totally up for grabbing a pint 😉
Didn’t CS Lewis make a distinction between happiness and Joy in his Surprised by Joy.
I tend to agree with you that too much can be made of a simple distinction. But I also think that at least as Lewis was pointing to something that is deeper than plain happiness.
In someways like the difference between something that is ‘pretty’ and something that is beautiful. When I say a sunset is pretty or a vista is pretty I mean something different from the philosophical idea of beauty as being a type of revealed truth of God.
I think these types distinctions can get overblown especially when we don’t carefully define them. But I think there is some value in making the distinctions when culturally we tend to hold up more surface level descriptions, like I am friends with you on facebook. But I am not friends with you in the same way that I am friends with the guys that I have gone on an annual trip for 25 years.